**trigger** Bestfriend **trigger**

It was so insensitive of her to come to you with this information right now. I'm assuming she knew about your miscarriage and D&C? And she still thought this was an appropriate conversation to have with you? I am so sorry for your loss and that you had to shoulder this today. It's not fair. Just continue to remind yourself that other women having babies or abortions will not in any way affect your ability to have a baby. You have to focus on your own healing and grief right now. You can help friends when you've taken care of your own needs first. Remember, put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others. 

I've been in this situation but my best friend was only 20 and she didn't want to tell me because I am like a mom to her and I had just had my d&c. I figured it out and when she told me she was aborting I cried and couldn't speak to her for a week. Then I realized she was scared and alone with noone. As much as I didn't like her choice, its her body. I took care of her after the procedure because I love her.

I'm so sorry! That must be incredibly hard to have to deal with. It's really sad that she feels like that is the answer for her situation. Sadly it just doesn't seem fair. Those that want them can't seem to get them and those that can don't understand what a blessing they have. Stay strong!

Would u consider adopting her child if she chooses to have it? Would it be something she would consider I'm so sorry for ur loss I just miscarried on July 12 it's been hard on me too I can't be live she would come to u with this after all ur going thru I understand it being your bestie and all but really that's nit the way to do this I don't agree with abortion but it's everyone's right to choose also as of now but a pill to kill ur child is stupid she could give someone the chance that can't have babies to be a parent so many people fail to think of those that struggle so much to have their own children. I know this is a hard time for u but if you can talk to her try to get her to think of that baby it's alive it's so innocent and helpless and Simone out there would love that baby like it was their own just a thought if u could convince her to have the child and u could find it in yourself to take that baby as ur own it would be an amazing thing she could do for u and herself if she feels she doesn't want to be a mother or give it to someone who really wants a baby but can't have one of their own prayers your way hun and if she does choose to kill her baby I think it best to keep some distance till you can heal some from your loss I know that it will put such a strain on your friendship if she does abort her baby prayers your way and I hope if u conceive again that you have a healthy pregnancy losses are so hard I know.