I just need to vent... I’ve had two miscarriages , one in December 2017 one April 2018... both times in first trimester , both were missed miscarriages - the heart beat was gone (heard it at our 6 week appointment) I’m Also 39 and haven’t had a hard time getting pregnant at all... I was lucky- both times within 2 months. Well here I am.... I did all testing after my 2nd loss only Bc I demanded to be referred to an RE. If it weren’t for me asking to go I would probably have had a third loss as my obgyn didn’t take me seriously at all and just chalked it up to “bad luck” despite my being 38 at the time. So I go to an RE he does all sorts is testing. I have low ovarian reserve my AMH was low and fsh is high... he still didn’t seem to understand how ever why I was getting preg so easily w those numbers... I also did blood clotting testing ..,turns out I tested positive for APS which is a blood clotting disorder. I’ve tested positive twice , the first time w my obgyn who again didn’t take it seriously and said most women are positive right after there pregnant , well the end of June I was positive again! Met with a hematologist who wants me to test again in 6 weeks. He doesn’t want me to get pregnant until I know for sure so that I can be put on blood thinners and shots if I have it during my next pregnancy. Well now I just looked at my records from my general practitioner from July 2017 (Before I was pregnant) and I saw something positive that when I googled it is linked to ApS. I’m absolutely appalled not to mention disgusted that he never alerted me about this and when I had asked back then he said it wasn’t serious.maybe if the medical community took us women seriously and didn’t make us wait til we have at least THREE miscarriages (I was lucky Bc of my age they let me test at 2) maybe we could be treated and not lose our babies. All that’s happened is I am now a year older then when I started this process and I’m so angry to know that all I needed was a simple injection and maybe my baby would be here right now. I would have a 2 week old right now or be 5 months pregnant with the second. Instead I’m in $5,000 in debt for medical testing including my 2 d&c;’s and now my periods are all messed up (I used to be regular) and it’s caused a great amount of emotional stress amongst me and my husband. Sorry to rant but I’m so infuriated to know that this could have been prevented. Knowing also that my ovarian reserve is low it makes me wonder if I won’t be able to get pregnant as easily next time , I don’t know how quickly it deteriorates. Also I need to now wait 6 more weeks til we can try again per the hematologist. All I want is a healthy pregnancy and baby. I wish I had these answers a year ago and am very sad and disgusted to have kept getting the runaround by my obgyn ... all she kept telling me was it was bad luck. I’m so glad I went to an RE and took matters into my own hands and at least I know now. Really praying I get my rainbow baby someday. If anyone has experienced similar feel free to reach out. I’m frustrated and have learned so much about self advocacy through this daunting process.