How do you feel about photos of ex girlfriends?
Recently I had to go through our spare bedroom to sort things and de clutter so we could create a nursery for the arrival of our little girl. My husband and I both had a box each of old photos and keep sakes. I mentioned putting all the photos in albums on the shelf under our coffee table. He agreed.
We’ve both traveled quite a bit for our careers/for fun when we were younger, so we have all these interesting and fun photos that have been hiding away in boxes. I though maybe putting them out where people might grab the albums and take a look would be fun.
Well I was going through his photos and I knew he had a few photos of his ex in there (when his mother moved out of her home a few years ago we had to sort through a box of his old stuff and I told him I didn’t care if he kept a couple), but I didn’t expect like 20. There are a couple with other people - graduations, family events, etc. but there are also like 10 or more of just him and her.
I’m not really threatened by this - we’ve been together 13 years now and we are married with a baby on the way, but I don’t really want to put a bunch of photos of him with his ex in an album on our coffee table.
Is it crazy that I don’t mind if he keeps one or two but ask him to toss the rest?
Should I just let him keep the photos in a box in his closet?
Am I wayyyyy too understanding and he should have tossed them a long time ago?
I’m just wondering what other women think about this type of thing?
I haven’t kept any photos of me with my exes. Mainly because I didn’t want to, but also because he’d always make joking comments about “screw that guy, I hate him”. It was never angry or mean and always said in a manner that I don’t think he’d have mind if I held on to one or two, but still I wanted him to know I didn’t care.
The only ex in my albums on the coffee table is my partner when I danced on a cruise ship in Japan - and the 3 photos are of us practicing lifts & performing, none are personal photos. So it’s not like I have a monopoly on the situation. Or is it?
Update:
I asked him what we should do with them all and he told me to toss them. I feel better knowing I left the decision up to him and he said that.
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