Inlaw troubles (PLEASE READ)

Hey everyone so my brother inlaw came to visit his brother (my husband) and I with his wife and baby last week! One of the nights my parents came over for dinner while my inlaws were also there, my brother inlaw and father got into a debate but no one got disrespectful, yes my brother inlaw did get a little defense, him and I even butt heads, so I just chose to stay quiet and parents had to go home, after they leaving by brother inlaw was kinda complaining about my dad and my husband was basically saying he did nothing wrong to stop getting defense, especially cuz in our culture respect for elders means a lot! Even if you don’t agree you just learn not to disrespect and ignore! So he went to bed, I told my husband I didn’t agree with how his brother spoke to us an my husband apologized and said to not make a big deal, to speak to him about it later. I agreed. Next day was a religious holiday, my brother inlaw asked my husband what was the plans, husband says we’re gonna go to our religious prayer then we will go to my wife’s parents house to go eat since her mom make food for us, all disrespectfully my brother inlaw goes no I’m good I will not be going there, he kept repeating his self, my husband started getting upset and said her mom made us food so we will be going an of course I was hurt by his actions so I said don’t be disrespectful an he got all upset and I said for him to get out, and by get out I meant to leave so he can calm down, yes I agree it wasnt the best thing to say but I was very hurt because of the way he was acting, even my own husband was upset, cuz my husbands like your dad didn’t even saying anything bad for my brother to act this way! Anyways my brother inlaw is still throwing a fit, causing all of us to get upset an even makes his wife an I have tension between us. Husband and brother inlaw leave to go pray separately though. He called his wife and said pack their stuff up cuz he wants to leave. She’s embarrassed by his actions but just did what he told her to do cuz she doesn’t want more anger out of him. They leave an husband and I go to my parents, dad has no clue what had happened an keeps asking where my brother inlaw is, husbands too embarrassed to say his brother had a melt down. After while husband goes to run errands and I couldn’t help tell my dad what happened. Dad was so confused just like us on why he was so upset but says you know what he’s still a guest call him and apologize on my behalf and you apologize too. So I swallowed my pride an apologized, but he decided to say more rude things to me... so I hung up an told my husband, husbands upset with him. We ended up just not seeing them the rest of the day, he ruined our religious holiday. Husband eventually told him to come to my families party or to meet us later, but he didn’t, husband try’s again and says pick up Zayba (me) and meet me for lunch for the next day but his brother declines an says no I was disrespected by your wife I will not pick her up, that hurt my husband a lot. So he stopped talking to his brother. I ended up making my husband meet his brother before they went back to their city. Brother inlaw was being all nice actin like he didn’t do a thing but had no care in the world to say bye to my family. I was disappointed but I kept it very short an didn’t talk much. Husband and I said bye and left. Later I let my husband know how hurt I was. Mind you there are other little details I could get into. Example husband and I getting into arguments cuz of what his brother said but Im not gonna get into it. Anyways my husband is very hurt too. Days go, my brother inlaw tried to message me saying “very cute video” of my son his nephew he saw but I didn’t respond! 20 mins later my older brother inlaw wanted to talk to me abut what happened trying to fix the situation but he couldn’t talk much an he ended up not calling me back so I’m waiting on him so we can fishing talking abut what happened. Point here is, my brother inlaw doesn’t wanna apologize for his actions. Wants to blame me for saying get out. Idk I’m hurt. And I will not be talking to him. My poor husband is hurt but will continue to talk to him eventually cuz that’s his family. His family will let it go cuz they are family right? He’s never gonna change. I understand there is two sides of the story. But to make scenes and disrespect me is not ok. I know this is a long post but please give me advice! My therapist says to just throw away what happened an just focus on my family. I agree but I care too much about what my family thinks now! I wanted my inlaws to be liked by my family now that has been thrown out the door! Anyone else have issues with their inlaws?