Depressed, work sucks, and now this?

Question

Not anonymous this time. I posted before asking about experiences with therapy. Well, this week I had my first session, and it went really well. It made me feel good; taking the first step made me feel somewhat in control. I'm happy to be going again next week, and I'm looking forward to it.

Still, I'm suffering with depression. And, on top of that, work sucks. Things are slowing down for the summer season and people are breathing down my back because they want to stir trouble in my department. I don't feel like I have the stability I have worked so hard for and earned.

On top of all of this fun stuff going on, my doctor just called to tell me I don't ovulate. I just don't. She thinks it might be PCOS and wants to put me on clomid in October. Awesome! So work sucks, I'm depressed, and I am incapable of getting pregnant. If one more person asks me why my husband and I don't have a baby yet, I might flip. I haven't even told anyone we're trying! People are just nosy and stupid.

Ergh! Sorry for the rant. I don't know what else to say, this just sucks.

Answer

I'm glad that starting to see the therapist has made you feel a bit better - it often does. The downside of that initial uplift,  is that sometimes we expect improvement to continue at the same rate...try not to expect too much too quickly or you may find it can't live up to that expectation which then can make you feel down about lack of progress.  Good therapy is really helpful but it can take time to feel the true benefit.

I'm sorry to hear about the possible pcos. I've been through another fertility issue recently and I know what a blow that kind of diagnosis can be. It's hard not to think about all the negative stuff, but try to remember and remind yourself that there are excellent treatments available and a lot of women with pcos and other reproductive issues do get their babies....perhaps it just takes a little longer.

As for stupid people asking about when you'll have kids - I really don't know why anyone thinks that's acceptable.  I had to put up with it over the weekend at a family party and struggled to keep calm and a straight face. What I really wanted to do is scream that it's none of their business and go cry. I don't think people have any clue how hurtful that question is to a woman who is struggling with infertility.

Depressed, work sucks, and now this?

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