Advice/Ideas please

So, we were gonna get married over labor day weekend @ his house in the country (we spend wknds there and weekdays in Atlanta) but he never REALLY wanted it there cuz he felt embarrassed & too much to do. Then we had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago, and I just cancelled the whole thing. It was gonna be my country dream wedding (both 2nd weddings for us) but I just couldn't deal with it all. He still wants to get married. I refuse to go to the courthouse. The woman he married is the one he left me for many yrs ago, and went on to have kids with. I feel like the perfect wedding is just one more thing she got that I don't. What/where can we have a simple ceremony that we both will like? I'm not allowed to see his kids tho he lives with me and mine because she's bitter but I'd like my daughter to be my flower girl. I needed to vent. I'm very sad and mourning both the loss of the baby and my dream wedding. Thanks.