Should your husband/boyfriend come before your kids

I have to say my kids will always come first. I have a friend who believes that you should serve your husband first and the kids come second. She is married with 3 children. She stays at home while the husband works. When he comes home he wants her to "tend" to him and his needs. I told her that In my household that is not how things go. My husband helps even after working all day. I even told her, to him, the kids come first and to me the kids come first. She basically has to put the tv on or something when her husband gets home so she can be with him. I was over at her home one day, he came home, immediately he said "did you fix dinner?" She said yes it's on the stove, he said "ok, fix me a plate, come here first and take my shoes off". She told me that he even has his "sexual wants after dinner, even if the kids are still awake.