He has to play with his dick before he wants to have sex

I’m fat.

My husband and me have been together 10 years, married for 6.

He’s always been chubby (didn’t matter to me) but over the last year he’s lost about 90 lbs.

I’ve noticed that whenever we have sex he has to tug on his dick a couple of times then he will start initiating sex. It has started to bother me.

He never just gets hard.

He is only 30 and has always been this way.

I am trying to lose weight but it’s difficult. I’ve only lost about 30 lbs since December. I have a long way to go.

I ask if he’s attracted to me and he says yes. But I’m inclined not to believe him.

Last night I asked him why he had to always ruffle his feathers before reaching for me but he had no answer. He was quiet the rest of the night after that. Not like he was mad but maybe just thinking about something. I didn’t press it further.

He’s a good man. Good provider. Great husband and father. I guess it just hurts my self esteem even more now that I’ve noticed this.

Am I nuts or is this a real thing?