Everything about our gender reveal has gone wrong

hey y'all. So I feel very silly at the moment because I never saw myself to be the type who stresses over a small simple party like the gender reveal but I'm actually devastated right now... my brother-in-law and his wife are the only ones who know the gender and they were supposed to plan the party and the reveal it's self. they took the financial burden on themselves and told us to just relax, just let them do something nice for us. So we did and that was our biggest mistake. a week ago we got told that they only planned the reveal but not the party and it was supposed to be happening... TODAY. What the hell. So my fiance and i get upset but move on and plan our own party/invite people in a week. it wasn't too hard but now my fiances check is short today and we can't afford the party. idk if I'm more bummed about the party or if I'm in tears because if the stress but I'm so disappointed. I'm so angry at my brother-in-law but I'm trying so hard to keep my shit together. I think I'm just over everything atm. and no, I'm not angry at my fiance for not having the money, that's not his fault.