Boyfriend attached to his mother?

Question

So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years now. 
We had a nice and steady relationship.
He is attached to his home place - his parents live hour and a half away from us, in countryside.
After we got pregnant, we decided to live at my parents in the city house for awhile, until we renovate our apartment, 15 minutes away from my parents. We both work in the city and have friends here- he's been living in the city for 15 years, since high school.
He always said he would want to live at his parents house one day, and i always told him that I can't see myself there in near future, maybe when we get older.
His parents are conservative, they were planning that he would stay at their house and eventually take care of them.
His mother is courious, wants to know everything. She is a good person and loves me, but her energy is disturbing to me.
So the thing is, he is now slighlty depressed and is video calling his parents every day so they can see our baby.
He wants us to go there every weekend, he feels so guilty if he's not at "home" for one weekend.
It's driving me crazy as I can't talk to him about this topic. He always gets so frustrated and paranoid if I say anyhthing.
Has anyone had a similar situation?

Answer

It's probably going to be tough for you to talk to him, since you are living with your parents right now. You have exactly what he wants, and he feels like it's not fair. I think it would be important for you to move back into your own place as soon as possible, so you can establish a sense of your own space for your family: you, him, and the baby. Send some time talking together about appropriate boundaries for both families: your parents can't just stop by because they were in the neighborhood, and maybe he schedules as set time once a week to video chat with his parents. Maybe dedicate one weekend per month in which you visit with his family. Personally, I have found that creating a schedule helps to establish expectations and create reasonable boundaries. Your boyfriend won't feel like he has to spend every day on the phone with his parents, because he knows exactly when he will get to see them again in person.

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So it's ok to live at your parents house for a period of time but not ok for his? That doesn't really seem fair for your argument.
There's a lot of MIL stories about mommas boys & I totally get it. But you have to have the same boundaries for both families, because it's simply not fair to say anything about living arrangements with family when you've already experienced that. 
You should talk to him about boundaries. Make compromises about every other weekend, or a time where he can freely chat with his parents as long as it doesn't interfere with plans you already had set up. 
You're a new family now. New traditions. Those need to be spoken about. You guys need to discuss it thoroughly. 
My husband is very close with his family who live a plane ride away. He talks to his mom every morning as they both travel to work. He makes sure to call every Sunday & speak with both parents. It's very rare they call out of that time frame if it isn't an emergency. 
But it wasn't always this way, we had to talk about it because clearly they don't know when we get intimate so that would be Interrupted, dinner would be interrupted, just family things. We talked over the things that have happened & how to handle future things that come up.

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I have a lot of experience with men who are still coming out if their moms, but this just sounds like a guy who misses his family. He probably feels that it’s unfair since you’re both living at your parents home right now. So he feels bad and wants his family involved on weekends. If you don’t want to go, you don’t have to. You can just say you’re not up for it but he’s welcome to take the kiddo for a visit himself.

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Sounds like his parents kind of have this hold on him. They make him feel guilty and like he owes them something. Which isn’t true. His parents seem to be doing fine on their own, now maybe later when they need assistance but right now y’all need to enjoy y’all time as a family with a new baby. They can’t expect y’all to move closer to them just because she hasn’t let her son go yet.

Boyfriend attached to his mother?

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