Hi girls, before you judge and send negative comments my way, please know that I don’t mean any harm to anyone and understand that there’s a more to the story than I could possibly ever write here.

My situation...

6 years ago, I dated a guy. Let’s call him “John”. John and I had an amazing time but back then I was super busy with work and focused on other things that I pushed him away and we went our separate ways.

We never forgot each other. Always followed each other on social media, etc.

I moved on, got engaged to an amazing man, couldn’t go through with it for many reasons - still thinking of John was one of them.

He also has moved on. Had a girlfriend, they had a baby, but he also could never take the next step with her.

Fast forward to 7 months ago. We started talking, he opened up to me about how he was struggling with his girlfriend - they hadn’t been happy for the past 3 years and that they chose to stay together to raise their daughter. He was very open about everything, their issues, the fact that they couldn’t get along and that he didn’t want his daughter growing up in a loveless home.

Around that time I was going through <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> trying to conceive and had decided that I would be a single Mom (I’m 35). I didn’t want to get pregnant by someone and drag anyone into fatherhood if I wasn’t completely sure about it.

John told me he needed to see me, I was very reluctant. He told me they were separating, both of them couldn’t take it any more. The last time they had been intimate was December after a Christmas party and that they both agreed there was no connection and they had to figure out how to coparent.

Anyways, we started dating. They broke up. 2 months into us dating (they were still living together for the daughter while figuring it out) she told him she was pregnant.

I had to choose to either run or stick around. I chose to stick around. He moved out, left her the house (he didn’t want to cause too much stress for the kid or the pregnant Woman).

He was there throughout the pregnancy. He stopped by every night after work to see his daughter and help her with chores. She finally let him take the daughter to spend weekends with him and we bonded.

The new baby is now 3 weeks old, and this is where I’m struggling. He has been there to help her every day, spending the night at the guest room. I want him back home. I know it’s selfish, but I want him to be spending nights with me.

She says she needs him there. What are some advices you can give me so that he can be a good present father and still be a good boyfriend to me?

By the way - she still does not know about our relationship - he said he wants to wait until the baby is about 3 months. Ultimately it isn’t her business, but I want her to know.

Any thoughts??