my friends are friends with my rapist

backstory: I don’t want to share what happened in detail, but I was raped by a popular guy at my school. I told my friends about it about a month later when I finally broke down and couldn’t hold it in. & I thank them sm for being there for me through that time but, they are still friends with him. They talk about him like I don’t mind hearing it. They bring up his name in small ways by saying “oh look at ______’s story” or “should we go to ____’s party.”.

anything and just hearing that and knowing that they know what he did to me hurts me. I’ve never told anyone like an adult about it and I guess if I didn’t want that to happen I should have, but I don’t even know what to say to them without snapping because I am not a confrontation type. I get so triggered when they bring up his name that if I were to say something to them I know it would come out bitchy. This happened to me in January and I think they forgot that I CANT forget what he did to me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to control their lives and make them stop talking about him but at the same time I think they should try to understand where i’m coming from even though they will probly never fully understand it.

advice plz on what to do is appreciated