Pregnant and stressing about boyfriends mother.

This is a very long post lol .

I’m currently 26 weeks pregnant & am feeling stressed about my boyfriends mother’s involvement in everything.

I appreciate her and her support but I feel like she is trying to make choices for me but some things make me feel uncomfortable. I don’t know her very well so I find it hard to speak up about certain topics.

- She has assumed I’ll stay at her house once I have the baby when I’ve already politely declined her offer & have made arrangements to continue staying at my dads for a few months so I’m comfortable & can save for my own place.

- She for some reason thinks we’ll be living at her house for a long time even though we’ve already told her I’ll be living with dad. My partner and I are planning to move into our own rental but feel as if she won’t take it very well.

- She has brought A LOT for the baby , to the point I feel really bad and she thinks she has to buy everything as I can’t afford it & don’t know what to buy. Both of which isn’t true.

- She has taken time off work in the month after the baby is born without asking us first so she can help with the baby but I’ll be at dads , obviously I’ll still be seeing her all the time but I want to spend the first month bonding with my baby & am quite experienced when it comes to looking after infants so I feel it wasn’t necessary.

- She has already put the baby on her preschool waiting list and is making decisions for me that I feel I should make.

- I’m not the type of person who likes being constantly around people and would prefer if it was only me and my partner at the hospital. I would also like the first few weeks to be as stress free as possible, other people constantly being around me will only add to the stress

I’m not being ungrateful but for what could be my only baby I’d like to make choices based on what I feel is best for us. This may be my only opportunity due to being told it was pretty much a miracle I got pregnant.

I understand she is the babies grandmother and will be involved , I’m more than happy for her to be. I just feel like the big decisions should be up to us as a couple and that she should respect my needs when it comes to privacy.

I need to speak to her but don’t want to offend , she is very lovely but these little things are causing me major anxiety