Anyone else terrified to be a mom?

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Ever since I was young I knew the one thing in life i always wanted was to be a mom, but as I’m getting closer to my due date I’m starting to panic a little. She’s a my first little one and I’m sooooooo happy and excited to meet her, but I’m scared. I want to be the best mom I can be and it seems like 99% of posts on here are talking about how excited they are, and I am too! BUT no one talks about how scary it is to be responsible for this little life. I don’t know if it’s just because I’m getting close to my due date and I already have bad anxiety, but I just want to be the best mom I can be. I don’t have anyone else to talk to about this because either it’s people who don’t have kids and their answer is always “you’re gonna be fine!” Or when I talk to my boyfriend about it he starts to panic too and it causes really bad anxiety for both of us (mind you we can talk about anything, but this topic once I start panicking so does he lol) and I hate talking about it because it makes me feel really bad. Anyone experiencing this type of anxiety??

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With my first, just two short years ago, I had these feelings.  Not before I gave birth, but right after. As soon as they laid my baby on my chest my first thought was, now what? I had no idea what to do. 
The nurses were amazing. They walked me through everything, breastfeeding, holding, laying my baby down, swaddling, changing a diaper (I was really bad at diaper changing), bathing him.  In my state, you stay at the hospital for two nights after birth. They checked on me regularly. 
However, even with the amazing nurses, when my husband and I got home, we looked at each other and couldn’t believe they let us come home. We still didn’t feel like we knew what we were doing. But moment after moment, the three of us figured it out.

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All the support on this thread! I posted anonymous at first because, honestly, I was afraid of the back lash. Everyone seems so “ready”. I’m ready to meet her, but terrified to screw her up some how. Thank you all!! I def feel less alone now. I just want to make her happy ❤️

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I think most women are terrified at one point or another during (at least their first) pregnancy, just most wont admit it because they don't want to be accused of being a bad parent. Its a scary thing, even when its been all you've ever wanted. You certainly aren't alone!

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I feel the same exact wayyyyy... I LOVE children, and everyone else’s children have always loved me!! but I’m terrified now that I’ll have my own lol I’ve never really been around newborns and I want to be a good mother, but since this will be very new to me, I’m a little scared lol and labor and delivery?? Omg, another fear of mine 😳

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I’m terrified too! It’s all getting very real and I don’t feel very ready. I’ve always wanted to be a mum and be pregnant but now it’s happening I’m super worried I won’t be a good mum or that I won’t love my child the way people say you should (terrible thought I know). I’m worried I won’t have that instant overwhelming love for him that everyone talks about 😣

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Lol I'm a third time mom so nothing phases me now. But honestly it came naturally I never really found parenting hard per say. Just stressful. You'll be just fine

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Okay thank you for this I’m terrified and this is all I’ve wanted my whole life I’m currently possibly in labor and I literally feel like I can’t do this like I’m failing her because she might be born early or that I’m just not ready to be a mom like I have no doubt that I will and already do love her more than I ever thought was possible but I’m terrified I don’t know simple things like the proper way to give a newborn a bath and breastfeeding that’s just terrifying but no one talks about this stuff it doesn’t matter how reassuring my fiancée is trying to be I never believe him I call him crying telling him I feel like I’m failing our daughter I’m no longer able to work because I’m having so many problems so I can’t even afford to take care of myself how is anyone letting me have this precious little angel that I don’t deserve it’s nice to know I’m not alone

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