Miscarriage rant

My miscarriage happened a while ago but some things are still really bothering me.

Here's some back story, currently my fiance and I live with my mother, we want a family if our own and we had a shot at that only to lose that on 7/10/18. I lost the job I had them as well because I was too sick to go, I couldn't stand on my own so there was no use in trying to work. Now my mothers conditions for living with her are I have to be on birth control or I get to move out. I'm working again and I'm making decent money, I'm an adult and should be able to make decisions involving my body but apparently to my mother who showed little to no support through everything I have no say while I live with her. The rest of my family was there for me thought the loss my mother on the other hand "go to work." "You need to go to work" "I went to work when I had my miscarriage" this was my first pregnancy, this would have been my first child she has 2 children already and she didn't even want the ones she has, I wanted my baby and the loss hurt (emotionally) more than anything. due to everything I'm growing a resentment towards my mother and she can't fathom why I'm angry with her. Am I in the wrong here? Is it horrible of me to dislike her after her insensitivity?