Hello ladies, I'm new to <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>, didn't really know what to make my first post about but then I wondered if any military wives or girlfriends are on here and I'm glad to have found a bunch🙂 I met the love of my life a year ago and we've been dating for 9 months now. He had already signed up for the navy before we even met, we met at work and instantly bonded the first week of knowing each other. He started his basic training in Quebec in April, and now he's been stationed in Halifax he's now training for the actual job. ( I'm not sure what the right job title is but he's working as a boasin ). Not used to the lingo at all, everything confuses me haha. Everything happened so sudden one day he got a call and then all of a sudden we had 10 days left to spend as much time together as possible. I thought we would have more time, our relationship is so new I thought we would at least have a year together but it was out of our hands. We haven't even been dating a year and our lives have both completely changed. I have a lot to think about, I'm going to be making some of the biggest decisions in my life the next four years ( 4 years is his contract, but he has decided to dedicate his life to the navy so he will serve 25 years) Eventually I will move to Halifax with him and we plan on buying a house🤗 this is the career he chose and I stand by him through it all, I couldn't be more proud of him, he's honestly a huge inspiration to me. He is the light to my darkness in every single way. He's the love of my life. He came into my life so unbelievably unexpectedly and it hit like bricks when I knew he was going to the navy my first thought was "now what" what will my life be like? I'm with him all the way no matter what he does in life I'm by his side supporting him 1000%. But I really don't know how to cope with the distance, with the loneliness, the long nights wishing he was home and sleeping in his arms. We face time every night, and somehow when I look at him I feel at peace and I know everything will be okay. It's hard, it's so hard already and he hasn't even started his job yet, but already the distance is excruciating. I have my daily struggles like anyone else but him being away just hurts even more. How do you ladies cope with the distance? How do you get by every day? Especially with children or expecting mothers...We plan on having kids too, it's hard knowing that he might not be there for the pregnancy or maybe not even for the birth. ( I have no family in Halifax so it's just the two of us until we decide to have kids, I'm terrified to give birth alone, I don't want to be alone ) I want him to experience as much as our future kids lives as he can but that just might not be our reality. What am I looking forward to as for taking care of my kids alone when he gets deployed? Is that our harsh reality now? What do you ladies go through on a daily basis? I'm just lost. I'm excited for him and our future together it's just coping with the distance and loneliness that I find a hard time with. This is just the beginning and we have so much to figure out and discuss.