Feeling... alone?

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My SIL is due 6 weeks before me. She is such an attention whore that I’m feeling left out of this baby world. 
Anytime I have an appointment she’ll share ultrasound pictures of her baby to bury mine in the threads. She constantly talks about how bad of a mom I will be because I didn’t get the most expensive car seat or crib 🙄 Graco SnugRide has great reviews and I got it for under $100... 
She’s having 4 baby showers.... I’m not having any for my husbands side because “she couldn’t fit it in” and my mother in law didn’t want to exclude her. It’s fine but, I’m feeling alone here. 
My family isn’t really involved with me. So, his family is all I have. My friends are scattered from Indiana to Idaho so we don’t see each other and have lost touch. I just want to feel worthy of motherhood and that my baby will be loved by this family. I just feel pushed out.
She did IVF so as my mother in law says “Her baby is more wanted and deserved.” 
😢 
Can anyone relate?

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I’m shocked at her comment! That’s awful, I’m so sorry. Honestly, they both sound like bitches. I would say screw them. Don’t let them ruin your happiness. I’m in the same situation as you as far as family and friends but I’m being happy for myself and that’s enough.

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That’s absolute bull with the IVF comment. I can’t believe your MIL said that. 
I also can’t believe that she’s had 4 showers but you can have one because she can’t fit it in... why is it up to her whether you have one or not? Perhaps don’t invite her?

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Yeah...I wouldn’t even tell them when I was in labor... What shitty ways to act 😤

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Her baby is more loved and deserved?  If my mom said something like that, I'd give her a piece of my mind. My husband would do the same if it was his mom. Your husband needs to put her in her place. Her behavior is downright hurtful and disrespectful. Her daughter's baby is just as much her grandchild as her son's baby.

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I am so sorry your dealing with this :(  
Where are you currently located? Could you travel home or to a friends location for a small shower just to celebrate?

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i think people sometimes make babies more expensive than they have to be. how much you spend on your child does not determine what type of parent you’ll be. i wouldn’t even fool with them because they both sound terrible. i’m sorry you’re going through this. a baby is a blessing no matter how it was made.

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