So I have really bad anxiety and depression and I’ve taken medication. He’s been through the ups and downs for two years with me, and since he’s never had any of it himself he was trying his best to understand it. (He is 26 and I am 22)

Recently I’ve been feeling he hasn’t been as into me, making me feel wanted, or isn’t attracted to me physically (he rarely kisses me or tries to have sex with me anymore) and he also doesn’t do things that show his love or respect like he used to in the beginning (whether it’s physical and/or other things) so obviously it’s a change I’m gonna notice.

So I confronted him and let him know how I feel and he just told me he has been turned off by me and says my anxiety holds me back from doing productive things and relying on him to drive me places because I can’t drive on the freeway far to work related things and called me “codependent”. I am fine with doing my own things, but when it comes to anxiety he really makes me feel safe and I don’t think that’s codependency.

He said he wants a girl who is motivated to chase her dreams and that my depression and anxiety hold me back. I can understand and I am trying my best, because I know I have a lot of potential for what I want to do in life, but it really hurts my feelings and I feel like he shouldn’t love me any less when my anxiety takes over. I don’t think it defines me. I am fighting so hard.

What do I do? Do I need someone new who is there for me and understands my anxiety more, I mean for f*@ks sake we’ve been together two years and talk about marriage and kids! I am thinking of finding a therapist and doing anything I can about my mental illnesses. But I don’t want to do it for him. I want to do it for me. That’s why I am fighting my anxiety/depression. Can anyone relate or have any advice? Sorry it’s so scrambled.