My boyfriend told me he doesn’t ever want children

Okay, let me put this out there & see what you think. I’m in my early 20’s and have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I don’t want kids for awhile, ideally not until I am married and own my own home. So a good 5 years at least.

Back story: I’ve always firmly believed that dating is to find my forever partner. Yes, I date to have fun, but I don’t care to just have fun. I don’t want to waste my time with someone if we’re not on the same long-term page.

My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage before and I know it’s something I want (and he does too) but we want to have our finances in order and date for awhile longer before we take that step. I know I love him with my whole heart and I seriously can’t imagine my life without him. He’s great to me and treats me wonderfully.

We’re very serious and have lived together for almost 2 years.

However, the only thing we don’t agree on,(and what is spurring this rant) is I know I want to be a mother and he very strongly iterates he does not want to have children ever. Having children in my lifetime and being a mother is not something I want to miss out on.

As much as I love him, I am unwilling to sacrifice being a mother in exchange for being with him. Even though I don’t want to have children for several years, I don’t want to waste my time or get married if when I decide it’s the right time, and he still doesn’t want to have children and we end up parting ways then because of it.

He always gets weird when someone makes a joke or says something about our “future children” I just don’t know if he’s like that because because he’s so young and can’t fathom having children right now & that will change OR if he won’t budge and we end up in a stalemate because I want children and he still doesn’t.

All of his friends have talked about how they want kids & always talk about “well when I’m a dad” - it makes me insanely upset when I hear those things knowing he is totally opposite.

So my question is, do you think I’m just overthinking it and shouldn’t be stressing because it’s still a ways off?

OR

Do you think we should end it and go our separate ways because if we’re not on the same page then it’s going to be a waste to stay together? It makes me unhappy to think of leaving him, but again I want to be a mother and I want to be with someone who wants children.