I confronted my molester.

Some backstory: My older sister molested me from the time I was 3 until I was 12. She told me she wouldn't do it anymore when I was 12 because she found "God and didn't want him to punish her for what she did to me." She, also, blamed me and said I iniated it anyway. We never spoke of it again after that until now. My parents and grandma caught her a couple times. They would tell her to stop but wouldn't do much else because she was too old for punishment. She never suffered from any abuse. Her friend showed her a lesbian porn video, and she decided to use me as a guinea pig.

After 8 years, I have finally gotten the courage to confront her. She would still make inappropriate remarks about me sexually whenever I would end up seeing her. Being around her has always caused panic attacks and made me feel like I was losing my grip on reality. I asked her to come over though because I felt like this needed to be confronted and I told her that I have something important I wish to discuss. She came over, and I sat her down, and I told her how what she did to me as a child affected me and still bothers me to this day. I was respectful about it. I told her I just wanted to know how it began, and why she thought it was okay to do it. Most of all though, I wanted an apology. However, she blew up on me saying she doesn't have time for this. That she has important plans with her friends, and she said she didn't care about what she did to me. She still said it wasn't her fault. Then, she left and hasn't spoken or looked at me since. She would still try to come over to visit our grandma though which my grandma allowed knowing what she did to me. Our grandma, my husband, and I all moved in together about a year ago, so we could help my grandma with bills since she was struggling. My panic attacks got so bad that my therapist confronted my grandma and told her that she shouldn't even allow my sister near me after what happened and that it doesn't matter if my sister is her granddaughter, too. He also implied that she should kick my sister out everytime she came over and tell her she wasn't welcome in our home, so my grandma finally stopped letting my sister come around. I am happy that I still confronted her even though it didn't turn out the way I hoped, and I'm glad my grandma finally came to her senses.