I have two friends who recently had a baby one of my friends are well off and she told me it's pointless to have one if you have to throw it and I can use the money to buy my baby stuff. I have another friend who doesn't really have a lot of money she had a baby shower and went all out looked very expensive. I thought about it when your pregnant you get fat as hell so you would have to buy a outfit get your hair done to look and feel pretty make up nails and toes plus venue food etc and my friend that had a babyshower it wasn't a lot of people there and she didn't even get a lot of stuff