Low sex drive 😑

This is kind of a personal topic to seek help on, but I don’t have anyone else to really ask. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ever since I had my baby in August 2017, my sex drive has been 👎🏻. At first sex was painful (even tho I had a c-section). That got better for the most part, and I tried doing the birth control shot. Well I t just messed up my hormones, and now I’m on the pill because the shot was just awful.

I’m not sure if the birth control changes have messed up my drive with the hormones? I’ve been on the pill for like 3 months now though. That along with the general baby stresses of being more tired than usual, etc.

It’s really frustrating my husband, because his drive is through the roof. We usually have sex once a week, but that’s not enough for him. He takes it personal and won’t consider that this is something I can’t really help. I’ve tried just doing it anyway even when I don’t feel like it, and it just doesn’t work. I really want to make him happy, but I feel like doing it when I really don’t want to isn’t fair either.

I’m realizing that I need help in one way or another as it has been causing a lot of tension in my marriage. I’m just not really sure which route to take? Would the OB have something they can prescribe or help with? Or maybe we should see a sex therapist or even general marriage counseling?

I’m just not really sure where to go with this and I just want things to get better. 😔 I’m hoping someone has gone through something similar and can provide some insight.