I feel rejected/undesired by my boyfriend..

Okay so this is quite a heartbreaking subject for me. It’s been bringing me down for a while and I’m also worried I may be overreacting or it’s not as deep as my overthinking is making it out to be.

My boyfriend never really wants to have sex with me. He keeps saying he wants to but actions speak louder than words and it shows..

He finds it so hard to get turned on, no matter what I do. And if he does manage to get hard, it’s gone down before he could even enter. I clearly don’t attract him as much as he makes out.

I’m always initiating sex but he just says he’s tired or he’s worried he won’t be up up for it. He’s had some problems getting it up and I’ve been very patient and comforting about it because he is significantly older so our libidos are at different levels but there’s so much rejection a woman can take and sadly it is getting to the point I’m just sad and want to crawl under a rock away from him because I feel embarrassed as a failure.

We’ve spoken about what could be the case and we’ve resolved the issues, I’ve helped him as much as I could but the truth is, he just isn’t that attracted to me for whatever reason it may be.

It makes me so sad that when you truly love and desire someone, just seeing their faces can be enough for most people to just want to physically love their partner but sadly in my case, my partner doesn’t feel as excited around me as I do them.

How can I turn him on and keep him up?