IVF consultation disappointing

We went back for our 2nd consult to review our lab results and discuss a plan. I seriously get so frustrated! I just don’t think dr’s realize all that we put into this by the time we’ve come to this point. (I’ve been dieting and on supplements and cut out caffeine and alcohol for 4 months now). I guess, for me, this appointment was so disappointing because you can only hear “your eggs are old and quality is not good and you are low on reserves” so many times oh & “less than 5-7% chance.” I forgot to mention we have to drive 3 hours just to get there.

I know he was trying to save us heartache and money but seriously?! I just hoped since he already discussed chances for women my age in first consult we wouldn’t go there again. I was hoping for just a discussion on what’s involved in IVF & what our next steps are.

Don’t get me wrong he’s a terrific dr (& helped us have our baby #1 in 2012), but I’m so beyond this “talk.”

What my husband took from this was this is just throwing our money away. Then he threw out the donor eggs option! Yes - 50% better chance I get it, but that wasn’t what we were there for! I know, again, he is just doing his due diligence but it’s still so frustrating, depressing and heartbreaking! My husband was all about donor eggs because on paper it makes more financial sense and success rates higher but dont they get it- they just so easily cut me out of it - just like that! That’s not what I want!

Look I’m not saying it’s a bad option- I may even consider it at some point. I think it’s a terrific option. I’m just venting. It’s just not what we wanted.

I just felt like we had this plan and now I’m seriously so down I’ve called an adoption agency. 50% of his genes in a baby for ME is just not a better option for what I wanted and for what my husband wanted (prior to this). Not on our first try at IVF. I want to try to do everything I can to have another baby of our own & we’ve been trying ever since 2012! I just need help! 🤦🏽‍♀️😡😥💔 sorry for the vent ladies. I just need some love and support. My husband is not as vested as I am. Supportive but not as vested. Just needed to vent.