Is it rude to RSVP and then not show up or cancel?

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My baby shower was tonight and my sister threw it and it was soooooooo cute and she worked so hard. She even came from out of state to do it! But almost more than half the people who said they would be there and Rsvp'd didn't show up and it was embarrassing for me and put a damper on the party itself. I tried to be positive and did good but I was super embarrassed.

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Happened to me aswell, still greatful for the people that did come sincerely, but was looking foward to get support from some of my friends
....and all i got was a message later from them, some saying oops i slept in, lets get together ...and then nothing ever since; even sent them reminder msg of hay, off work now on sick leave so anytime works, let me kkow what works for you...now...36 weeks and nothing and fuck em. Ill take the support thats been there since the start...
Just disappointing..

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RSVP and just not show- very rude
RSVP and need to cancel and actually notify the person- understandable

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Yes it is VERY rude. People plan on you being there, spend money to get enough food, and then for someone to not show up it is just a smack in the face. I’m sorry a lot of your guests didn’t show up, if I were you I would re-evaluate those friendships... especially if they did not give a valid reason to why they were not there. I had a few people RSVP and not show up to my shower, I will no longer make an effort to maintain those friendships at all.

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Happened to me and I was PISSED!!!! That was money wasted what could had been spent on baby. Baby showers r not always cheap and the food that’s left over too can really be a burden ( we had ALOT left) prices for games, just everything I was really upset. Not to mention most people didn’t even give a reason for y they didn’t come smh.

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It definitely depends on reason to back out. If you or your kids are sick or something that’s fair. But unless there is an emergency, there’s no excuse for not letting someone know.

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Happened to me as well. The people who are my real friends have attempted to meet me or met me for gifts. I was given a real excuse. Everyone else can Gtfo of my life. I seriously have friends who don’t invite me to lunch because I don’t drink, fine I get it, but then to say you’re coming to my shower and not show up? That’s rude and mean. I cried the whole way to my shower.

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It was rude of them not to come. I had about 20 people rsvp and only a couple of them let my husband or myself know they couldn’t make it. One came for a few minutes and left. The others that didn’t come just said nothing. My husband was a little disappointed/mad about an aunt that gave two different excuses to two different sisters that both spoke to us. My mil was disappointed that she didn’t come either cause the three of us always make it to their stuff,alway get her kids gifts and such. But things like this show you who really cares and who really loves you and your family.

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This is what I'm afraid of! So messed up

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This happened to me at mine in October.. 15 ppl that rsvp didn’t show. And didnteven say anything to me about not showing. I felt so embarrassed and cried after. Because it just made me feel so dumb . People are so rude now and don’t care who they hurt. I already had a small guest list cuz this is babe #2. And the ppl that did show up where super late so it was just my husbands family and j sitting and waiting for ppl to show up . So embarrassing. Ugh. But the ppl the did come had a good time and the food wad good. And we got some cute clothes. Just really sucked  that people did that.

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Had 3 people do this too me @ mine that I thought were friends. One gave me a gift later  but I am still over all of them. One even messaged me that morning for the location and just didn’t show up. There is No excuse to not send me a message to let me know you can’t be there. One had even told me the night before they were coming

Is it rude to RSVP and then not show up or cancel?

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