Is it too early to announce?

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I’m 7w4d with my first pregnancy. I have PCOS and was on fertility medication for almost a year. I’ve had pretty awful morning sickness so we had planned on telling my stepsons, ages 10 and 12, tonight and then making a social media post on our anniversary next Sunday. I got my progesterone levels back today and they are low (11) but by doctor won’t do anything about it so now I’m worried that I should wait until after the first trimester is over. I finally told my dad today that I’m pregnant and before I could tell him not to tell anyone he had already told his sisters. They are a gabby bunch who disapprove of my husband and haven’t talked to me since the wedding so I’m worried they will tell lots of people just out of spite. Now I’m back to thinking I should just go ahead and announce it on my own terms and if something and happens then at least people will know and could help me emotionally. I just feel like I’m doing the “wrong” thing socially by announcing before the first trimester is over. Any suggestions or advice?

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I hate that we are made to feel like it’s socially unacceptable to tell people early. Lol. I’ve told a ton of people. We are waiting to do our official social media announcement until end of first trimester, but basically everyone I see regularly already knows. Who cares what anyone else thinks or what the social norm is. Do what you feel comfortable doing. I felt the same, in that if I lose this pregnancy I want the support. I lost my first and really had no one. And it sucks. But everyone is different. Do what you want :) fuck everyone else lol

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I told intermediate family right away but haven’t told social media yet because I want a nice pretty ultrasound pic to post when the baby looks like an actual baby. Also I couldn’t deal with the thought of people knowing I had a loss and possibly use it against me in the future (we all know people are like that)

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I feel it’s best to wait until the first trimester to tell people on social media just because you’re out of the “scare zone”. Just my opinion though. But I have told a lot of close friends and family so far.

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I told my family the day after the test came back positive. My boyfriend’s mom and brother found out the day after that and the rest of his family two days later.
We weren’t gonna tell friends until we were ready to do a social media announcement but my aunt got excited and forgot that we weren’t telling people (can’t blame her - my boyfriend had been telling people before my period was even due but I told them he was kidding) so she went into where he works part tine and said something about it so our friends found out a little earlier than expected. 
I was about 5 weeks at that point. 
Posted on social media for distant family and friends at 10 weeks😊.
Though next time I’ll probably wait until after the first trimester to tell family just because then everything after was “baby this baby that” and I was happy about it but they were like coddling me and it drove me nuts lol. Wouldn’t let me carry my own dinner plate if I was visiting them. 😩
Then social media announcement would probably be after finding out gender.

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I was about 4-5 weeks when we found out and my number was 10. My dr didn't do anything either and we were going to tell just our parents just incase something happened. Labor Day weekend is the time we would tell them but instead the hcg levels went down and we lost the baby. They were the only ones to know what happened until we were ready to tell anyone else on our own terms. Generally speaking, I think whenever people want to announce is up to them but with an 11 I would wait out the first trimester.

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I don’t want to tell because I don’t want to deal with the consequences of everyone knowing and having them ask questions about how it’s going or having to go back to them and tell them if the baby doesn’t make it. I had a miscarriage last year and it was so hard to go back to the very few I told and let them know I lost the baby. I’ve told even fewer this time, and only the ones that I know will let me grieve my way if I lose the baby again  
I think as long as you’re ok with how things would play out if you had to tell everyone that you miscarried then it’s ok to share.

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I couldn't hide my pregnancy because I'm sure they would have caught on, so I had no choice, but to tell as soon as I confirmed it. 😂😂😂😂

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No I announced to close friends and family soon as I found out then family that was far away I announced to them with a picture of my first ultrasound

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The only reason we were going to tell the boys today is because they are with us for the next 5 days and maybe it would be old news before they went back to their mom. With the holidays coming up they will be with her more. I know their mom will try to cause trouble once she knows.

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I told my immediate family and close friends around 6 weeks (I was really poorly and didn't want them gussing) then my dad who I am not close to started telling people out of spite so I felt forced to announce which made me feel like I'd had some of the excitement/fun taken out of my announcement since most people already knew.

Is it too early to announce?

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