Anxious about CRITICAL ultrasound

With my last pregnancy, I found out at our 20 week anatomy scan that baby had a lethal birth defect. This was despite doing all the genetic tests offered up until that point and everything coming back normal. We were completely shocked and devastated. It would have been our first child. We got a second opinion at a world renowned hospital, and they confirmed the diagnosis. We then terminated the pregnancy at 22 weeks. This was in June.

We waited the 6 weeks my Ob told me to wait and then we started trying again. It took us a while to get pregnant the first time so we figured we’d just start and that it’ll take a while, even though the autopsy results and the other extensive genetic tests we were doing on the first baby were not back yet. And of course we somehow got pregnant on the first try! We were thrilled but terrified because we didn’t know if this pregnancy would also be affected.

After months of waiting we got back inconclusive genetic test results. We don’t know whether the first baby’s condition was inheritable or not, but we know that at worst (if it is), the chance of recurrence is 25% with each pregnancy. So we still have a 75% chance of a healthy baby under that scenario.

Because this happened to me and I’m a high risk pregnancy, this time I am getting 2 anatomy scans - an early one at 16 weeks and another at 20. Tomorrow is our 16 week scan and I am absolutely terrified!

Please send good thoughts and prayers our way please! ❤️❤️❤️