Stretched to thin- UPDATE

I’m 5 weeks postpartum, I’m exhausted and just want to cry I feel like I’m failing my toddler. When baby was born we had toddler stay at my in laws for a week (he came to visit several times a day) when baby was two weeks old he got very sick with meningitis and ended up getting admitted to the PICU 2 hours away so we were there for 4 days so again toddler stayed at grandparents house. I take him to daycare for a few hours a day so I can rest. I spend the morning and evenings playing with my toddler but after awhile it gets stressful and I take him to daycare. baby got sick again at 4 weeks old and he isn’t getting better. I have to keep taking him to the doctor for check ups and honestly am worried he is going to end up in the hospital again after today’s appointment. Husband has been very sick the last 5 days and yesterday he got admitted to the hospital so I had toddler stay at grandparents a couple nights this week also because husband and baby are keeping me so busy. I have not hardly been eating or sleeping I’m definitely not taking care of myself bc I have been so focused on everyone else and I feel like I’m failing my toddler because I have been so focused on baby and husband 😢

I just am so stressed about the sick baby he sounds horrible and already had a serious illness so Im not dealing with this well and we are not sure what’s going on with baby or husband. I just feel like I’m failing like I’m not able to give my all to anyone like they need and I feel so worn out.

Update-

Baby got worse and got admitted to the PIcU 2 hours from home he tested positive for RSV. He also tested positive for rhinovirus and entrovirus (common cold) the entro virus was what caused the meningitis a few weeks ago. He is doing ok on breathing treatments and occasionally oxygen. Husband is still in the hospital back home. his labs are not improving like they want them to they are not sure exactly what is going on with him. Not sure when either of them will be able to go home 😞