So, my bf an I have been dating for almost 5 years. He recently moved back to his home state of Oregon to be closer to his family again while I’m still in Montana. He was out there for a month before I quit and went out to visit for a month. I came back home to start packing my stuff to move. A couple weeks after being home, he gives me the silent treatment and doesn’t talk to me for almost a week saying he needed space. I gave him his space and when I finally talked to him again, he said he loves me but didn’t know if we were right together. We decided that we loved each other enough to work through what was causing the stress between us and everything was fine again.

A couple weeks ago, he drove up in the hills with a girl he used to have a crush on in high school (he’s now 24). He didn’t tell me anything about it beforehand even though the agreement between us is that if we hang out with someone of the opposite sex, it is to be in a public place or with another person included. Earlier that day, he had texted me saying he loved me and then had called me quick to say that he got off early and would call me later to talk. I never got a phone call and started to get worried. He wouldn’t respond to my text messages or my calls. I was looking for his friends number on his google contacts list so I could contact them and make sure everything was ok, and I saw the girls number. I went to his location history and pieced it together that my bf had stopped at her house. I got his roommates girlfriend involved and she drove a half hour at 2 in the morning to find my bf and her bf because she doesn’t like the girl due to her “homewrecker” reputation. She got upset with both of them and she said that the girl had a oh crap look on her face when she showed up behind the boys.

I was freaking out because I hardly know the girl, but saw her in the store while I was there and didn’t get a bad feeling off of her. I didn’t even have to ask my boyfriend to tell me, he called me the next day and said “please don’t be mad, but I picked so-so up because she is going through a rough time and needed a friend to talk to. I think of her like a sister and would never do anything like that with her”. My gut immediately calmed down after he said that and he understood why I was upset. I’ve never had reason to not trust my boyfriend when it comes to cheating, but I also don’t want to move away from home if he is possibly cheating. The girl also has 2 kids from 2 different guys and my bf said he would never be able to be with someone who has kids with someone else because he thinks it would be awkward.

I also got a texting app with an Oregon number and pretended to be one of their friends and asked if they had a thing going on, and the girl said no, just friends and they just drove around.

Does it sound like they didn’t do anything or am I missing something? Just would like some other input to ease my brain. TIA