Overreacting or not?!?!?

So my husband went for my son at daycare a couple weeks ago and he had his shoes on wrong and didn’t have a jacket on when it was so cold outside. My husband asked the lady why doesn’t he have his jacket on and she said he didn’t want it on. While today my mom went for my son and his shoes were on wrong again. His 3 years old. I told my husband and he told me they just don’t care. The other lady who used to watch him was so good. Idk if we are just overreacting or should I say something to the manager. Also my son hardly has accidents while when they watch him they say he pee again. I even took them some pull ups so when he takes a nap. He might pee while his playing but idk because when his with me his really good on going to the bathroom.

Keep your rude comments to yourself!!