Do you feel bad when you punish your child?

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My son is 3 1/2 for some reason he had been calling everyone stupid and spitting on people. When he does this I put him in time out and he cry's the entire time, I feel horrible for doing it, but I don't know what else to do. 😔 I don't want him calling people names or spitting on people but it breaks my heart when I have to punish him for something. Any advice from other moms would be helpful!

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No, and here's why... I believe that discipline is a form of love. If I didn't adore my children I wouldn't care if they ran wild and ignored rules, but I do care about them; therefore, I teach them to behave through example, explanation and discipline when warranted.

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That doesn't sound like punishment. That sounds like healthy discipline. This helps him understand that his actions have consequences. Afterwards a follow through is critical. Asking him, "why are you in a time out?" And finding the time to have him say sorry to that person will teach him healthy habits and manly character. Keep it up momma!

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OMG that was totally meet to say punish not punch. I must have hit the wrong key on my phone. Now I feel even worse 😔😔😔😔

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Your not punishing him. Your teaching him right from wrong, it's called constructive discipline. If just time outs aren't working have you explained to him that it's not polite or acceptable to act that way?

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Of course I feel bad, I love my son. I love him so much, I care about how he acts and know I need to enforce constructive behavior because he needs to learn to those things to survive in the world. That's my job as his mother.

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Yes, I hate it. But it's necessary.

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I don't feel bad for punishing my boyfriend's godson, because I want him to grow up to be a good person. I do let him slide sometimes though, because I don't want to push the line of aunt vs. parent. His parents split up again, so I'm also trying to give him stability when he's at our house. He's a good kid and it helps that my boyfriend is starting to be the "mean" one sometimes.

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It hurts my heart some, but I know it's what's best for him. Children need rules and need them to be enforced. It's a learning process but it's no fun... Whenever I have to scold my son or let him cry I just remind myself that he is learning from this and it will benefit him in the long run.

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It depends on what he did. If he was being mean, I don't feel bad punishing him. But I will never forget the time I messed up big time as a parent. I begged my son to play catch with me. He refused. I got really mad and told him to go to his room!!! Wth!! I don't know why I shouted that! I felt awful. I actually apologized to my son for it. He was so sweet about it! 😢 I hate not being a perfect parent.

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It's fine to discipline your child. But what made your son behave that way?

Do you feel bad when you punish your child?

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