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No, and here's why... I believe that discipline is a form of love. If I didn't adore my children I wouldn't care if they ran wild and ignored rules, but I do care about them; therefore, I teach them to behave through example, explanation and discipline when warranted.
Do you feel bad when you punish your child?
My son is 3 1/2 for some reason he had been calling everyone stupid and spitting on people. When he does this I put him in time out and he cry's the entire time, I feel horrible for doing it, but I don't know what else to do. 😔 I don't want him calling people names or spitting on people but it breaks my heart when I have to punish him for something. Any advice from other moms would be helpful!
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That doesn't sound like punishment. That sounds like healthy discipline. This helps him understand that his actions have consequences. Afterwards a follow through is critical. Asking him, "why are you in a time out?" And finding the time to have him say sorry to that person will teach him healthy habits and manly character. Keep it up momma!
An
I do that with my son. I have him face the person he's apologizing to and say he's sorry for ____, works for us. He understands what he did was wrong and he knows what he did.
Bl
I don't know how you guys feel about it, but I make my boyfriend's godson say what exactly he is sorry for. I notice too many people say sorry as a reaction, without meaning it. I think saying what they're sorry for makes a person think about what happened and actually be apologetic.
Jo
That's great Deena, but I encourage you to have him say sorry to that person, as practice
OMG that was totally meet to say punish not punch. I must have hit the wrong key on my phone. Now I feel even worse 😔😔😔😔
Li
Well typos happen lol. I have a 3.5 year old son too and he is a hand full for sure. Lots of time out in our lives lately. But even though it makes me sad to upset him I'd rather it be me or my husband than him grow up to be a horrible person and end up in jail or something.
I don't feel bad for punishing my boyfriend's godson, because I want him to grow up to be a good person. I do let him slide sometimes though, because I don't want to push the line of aunt vs. parent. His parents split up again, so I'm also trying to give him stability when he's at our house. He's a good kid and it helps that my boyfriend is starting to be the "mean" one sometimes.
It depends on what he did. If he was being mean, I don't feel bad punishing him. But I will never forget the time I messed up big time as a parent. I begged my son to play catch with me. He refused. I got really mad and told him to go to his room!!! Wth!! I don't know why I shouted that! I felt awful. I actually apologized to my son for it. He was so sweet about it! 😢 I hate not being a perfect parent.
It's fine to discipline your child. But what made your son behave that way?
MO
Deena, first off you're not abusing your child! Secondly, when my stepson comes to stay with us, we basically have to deprogram him because his mom doesn't parent him at all! Let me tell you, I dang near had a heart attack when I found out she wasn't watching him and he has a tablet and managed to find extreme porn on the internet. It turns out that his mom was letting him take his tablet and basically lock himself into a room. My stepson was 7 at the time. He's now 8 and my SO and I know EXACTLY where he gets his attitude from.
Dj
Try to check it, a child can't know those things unless he sees it from someone (or watched it from tv) all the time.
De
not sure. he went an seen his dad and came home doing it.
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