Head/Sex with pubic hair

Would you have sex/give head with a male or female if their pubic hair is long? I trim mine rather than shaving but of course low ass trim to my vaginal. (Shaving my vaga irritated me when it's growing back) My so have a full bear down there and refuse to shave or even trim. Lately I been in the mood and because of this I don't even want to have sex. This is seriously messing with the marriage. He want some but don't want to comply with me. I'm outrage! I should not feel this way.