I’m a little embarrassed to be posting this, hopefully I don’t come across as incredibly rude. Under no way do I feel that our parents are obliged to buy everything for our daughter. I just can’t help but compare my parents/in-laws thoughtfulness !

I am 24 weeks pregnant, married and live far out from both our parents (3 hours)! It is the first grandchild on both sides, so both our families are very excited.

Our in-laws offered to buy our travel system very early on. They’ve also given us a box of new clothes newborn - 3 months, a baby chair and lots of health care products/nappies. My husbands grandparents have also offered money (set amount) towards one small nursery furniture item, as well as a sum to go in to an account when baby is born. Husbands family really have gone overboard!!

My family are also excited, my sister and parents have bought some cute outfits. My parents offered to buy the travel system too, but in-laws had already bought it at that point. They’ve offered to give half the cost of the travel system to my in-laws but my in-laws refused and said they were happy paying the cost.

My parents have not offered to put money towards anything else. Now, we’ve already bought all the big stuff and just the little bits are left now.... not really sure what else they could buy if they offered - my mother is also aware when I’ve bought big things (usually send her an excited message).

Living far out, they came for a visit recently, and we had boxes of nursery furniture that needed assembling - being far from family, help would have been appreciated but they didn’t offer (granted I didn’t ask). My in-laws are now traveling up to help my husband build/assemble the nursery furniture in a few weeks.

It’s hard not to compare, but I feel like my parents have let me down (if that’s even the right word) because of the lack of thought COMPARED to my in-laws. If my in-laws hadn’t offered or helped as much I wouldn’t think twice about this!

I’m also super tearful about everything at the moment, and this has only really occurred to me and I feel kind of ‘sad’ about my parents- bringing up old memories whilst growing up - my sister lives super close to my parents and they have a close relationship, I can’t help but wonder if it would have been different if it was my sister and not me having a baby.

Sorry if this post sounds like a rant, needed to unload - thank you for reading if you got this far!

Combing through comments I appear to have given a very ungrateful impression. I am incredibly grateful to both our families and have told both that our daughter will be incredibly lucky to call them grandparents. We live far away from family, hence why a travel system was what both wanted to buy (in laws have just gone overboard with extras). I am not dependent up on my parents for anything. We both work hard, own a home and have enough savings for me to live comfortably (without having the need to work) for the first 3 years of our daughter life. We don’t need our families to buy anything and we haven’t asked for help for anything, my in-laws have just been incredibly generous and in this moment I’ve been emotional over my parents not thinking to offer/ask to help with anything else - out of love for their daughter having her first baby (NOT out of money or need). It’s brought up a lot of negative feelings from how I was and have been treated compared to my sister. Would my sister receive the same thoughtfulness as my in-laws have shown me and my husband? It’s only human to compare/feel the differences...