My fiance and I have not told anyone that we are ttc yet as we have just started in the past month or so. Today I was talking to my mom about how I'm trying to lose some extra weight ( I'm 5'1 and 235 lbs), I had been trying intermittent fasting but it was really messing with my period and obviously ttc you don't want that. Anyways my mom continues to tell me it doesn't matter because I don't want to have kids being anywhere near the size that I am because it WILL cause me to have a "very very high risk" pregnancy. She then continues to tell me I have to lose "a whole lot" of weight before I even consider trying to get pregnant.

Am I doing the wrong thing by ttc while I'm trying to lose weight? I know I can do it, it just worries me that she is right and that I should wait until I've lost a lot more. I know it can cause complications being plus size but I want to start my family while I'm young and I don't want to wait. :(

Any advice is welcome!!