Partner doesn’t understand my grief

My husband isn’t by any means heartless or cold. He’s usually a very sensitive guy. But he’s really struggling to understand my grief for this chemical pregnancy. He keeps saying “well at least it happened straight away” “at least it didn’t become a baby” etc. I hadn’t even told him I was pregnant as I started bleeding the day after I found out, so he says that plays a massive part in him not grieving. I’m so hurt that he’s not upset by it. Has anyone else gone through this?