Mums what’s your opinion?

Question

I gotta ask if anyone understands where I am coming from. 
I was manager at a retail store but I stepped down as a casual for less days because of day care costs and it didn’t work with partners work days (so he couldn’t  watch our kids because of how my shifts were and his) so now I’m lucky to get 2 days every week of work on the weekends. He makes more than myself and he gives me nothing I never ask. My job is a crap little job but I love going to it. If you’ve been a sahm you crave adult interaction and I enjoy going to work it’s like my little break away from home  with screaming kids the endless cleaning etc etc (Our kids are 1 and 3 so they’re a handful)
So my partner works Monday to Friday only 5 hours every night he comes home kids are already in bed everything’s done. Now he is telling me to stay home on ONE of my two only days so he can rest because he will have to have the kids while I’m away for only a 5 hour shift. 
My frustration is that at the end of the day this little job is all I have for myself as a mum other than that I’m with my kids 24/7 taking care of them and attending to them the house everything. He is telling me to quit and that my job is shit and the money is crap and everything else but he doesn’t get it. I think in his head he really thinks I should be this house maid cooking and cleaning all damn day I can’t do it any longer being stuck in a house I want to go out get my own money and be my own person and not have to wait for HIS pay day and ASK for anything. 
Has anyone experienced this? Any negative comments will be deleted.

Answer

If it’s important to you then keep your job and don’t worry about what he thinks.

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I think I get what you mean. I wanted to work for my sanity, it was just as full on as being a mother, partner and keeping the house organized but it was still a place to go to that I enjoyed. I would still be working now if this pregnancy didnt give me health reasons not to. Dont give up something that makes you happy

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I completely understand where you’re coming from!! If I were you I would just try to explain to him that you need this time away with other adults to interact with. Tell him that you like your job because you obviously do and if he shuts you down and refuses to be on board with what you want then simply tell him that you’re a big girl and you’re going to keep the job anyway because that’s what you want. Explain that you understand where he is coming from when it comes down to the money but that it’s more important to you to get your short break that you so need and deserve! Being a mother is a lot of work! Men don’t always understand. I run a home daycare and my hubby works outside the home so sometimes I have to remind him just how much I do not only taking care of our own 2 babies but also a few others! I definitely need a few hours on the weekend to myself and I’m thankful that he is beginning to understand that a little more. It took some time because on the weekends he wanted time to go play and hunt and do his hobbies. It is hard as parents to find a common ground because you both need your time alone or you’ll go crazy! Just stick to your guns no matter what!! Sorry for the long post! Hope this helps!

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