Probably trigger...Things NOT to say to a woman who just miscarried

•At least it was early

•At least you know you can get pregnant

•It was God’s will

1)Do NOT minimize a woman’s grieving. The second I got a positive test I had already loved that baby. All I have to remember this child is an appointment reminder card for an ultrasound that never happened and about $100 worth of first response tests that got lighter, then darker, then lighter again fading to nothing that my husband is furious at me for continuing to take while I was holding onto hope. Not to mention the ridiculous medical bills that will show up soon enough.

2)If I am lucky enough get pregnant again you bet your butt I’m going to be a lunatic the entire time because now I know from experience it’s not guaranteed.

3)I’m not anti religion in any way whatsoever you practice but PLEASE don’t tell me it was God’s will when I’m in the midst of hemorrhaging and in physical and emotional pain, and because frankly, I’m angry and it’s the last thing I want to hear.