TTC after birth control

After I started depo at 18 I had so much trouble producing any cm naturally (before I discovered lube wasn’t a bad thing) that sex was uncomfortable every time I did it. Even after being away from it now, we have to use lube every time we BD no matter how much foreplay is involved. Sometimes, halfway through it’ll kick in and then it’s too wet to feel good or it’ll only happen after the sex is over. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I thought maybe it had to do with not enough foreplay or my headspace so I tested it just masturbating home alone and it’s still the same. It’s kind of embarrassing and it really makes it hard for me to be intimate or proud of my body.

Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to up the “production” naturally?

I haven’t had a mom figure in my life to teach me anything so forgive me for seemingly stupid questions