SIL is Pregnant Too

Well... I'm a little bitter.

We dont really get along that well to begin with, but we have been on good terms recently. Today she announced she is pregnant with her second. I'm 21 weeks into our first pregnancy through IVF.

My in-laws play favorites and her kid has been the only grandchild for the last 3 years. She was the favorite growing up.

Her dad posted something about how many grandkids he would have next Christmas a few weeks ago and so I asked around because I wanted to be mentally and emotionally prepared to share our time in the spotlight. She straight up lied to me and said she wasn't pregnant. She gave my husband and me all of her sons old things 2 weeks ago too.

I know I should be happy for her and I'm sure I will be in time, but I can't help feeling betrayed and bitter that she couldnt have given me a heads up. Our baby will now be the baby for about 3 months and then her baby will be the baby again.

I guess I'm just looking for support that my feelings are acceptable right now, because I was not ready to share my pregnancy with someone who can be so self-absorbed sometimes.