Do you have to support your spouse every time they go on a diet?

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My husband goes back on forth on dieting quite a bit, I want to support him, but we have different fitness goals, I am not trying to lose weight, more the opposite, and he IS trying to lose weight.
That being said I’m curious, since I am in charge of all the food preparation in our house, I make all the meals, do I have to eat what I make for him (for his diet) and deprive myself the foods I want that he can’t have? 
I feel like if I eat what I want in front of him I’m making it harder than it needs to be and that I’m not being supportive.

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If you’re not around him I’d say eat what you want. I lost 30 pounds this year and couldn’t have done it if my SO hadn’t made changes as well. We both stopped bringing junk food and soda into the house so I wasn’t tempted all the time. We are more fruits and veggies and cooked more homemade meals. He definitely ate fast food a couple times a week while at work but I couldn’t see it so it didn’t bother me.

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I tend to be mindful of both of our needs. I support my husband with the food choices he makes, he supports mine. If he feels like indulging he will do it on his own time, and vice versa. I find a balance. I'm not going to sit there and eat cake in front of him if has chosen not to. That to me would be selfish and unsupportive. If I'm out and about, I'll have that cake.

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I personally would match what my husband is eating to be supportive. But that's just me.

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We dont diet hardcore, however we are trying to make healthier choices together. Just because you dont need to lose weight doesnt mean you don't have to eat healthy foods. I'm very thin but I want to eat better to feel better and do better for my body. My bf works out and his diet affects him a lot more than it does me and he gains weight way more easily. Having better foods in the house benefits us both.

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There’s no way I could’ve lost 40lbs without the support of my partner. Isn’t that the point of marriage? Being in a partnership means having that support system in place. My man ate what he wanted when I wasn’t around, and ate healthy with me during meal times. There’s isn’t one right way to support someone though, so you need to figure out what works for you guys.

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You don’t HAVE to do anything, but why would you not want to support your husband and change a meal when you two are together?? It seems like a pretty small sacrifice to prepare a healthy meal for the two of you and eat whatever you want when you’re on your own.

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Yes, but I don't think you shouldn't be allowed to have a Cheeseburger every now and then. I don't know your situation exactly, but you mentioned you're trying to put on weight and he is trying to lose weight. I'm the one trying to lose weight in our house and my husband and daughter are bean poles, there's no way in hell I would expect either of them to eat the way I eat. I stick to lean meat and plenty of vegetables and some fruits, I just fix my portions different than theirs, they get more proteins and I make a starch for them, I just don't put that on my plate. There's nothing wrong with keeping junk out of the house, snack cakes, candy, chips and soda, that's great for everyone regardless of trying to lose weight or gain it, but I don't think someone underweight should be restricting their caloric intake just because their partner is.

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Yea I support him when he does because I’m always the one going on and off diets and he tries to support me. But he eats whatever he wants when I’m on my weight loss diets.I always tell him “ you’re on your own for lunch/dinner” and he says ok

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Depends if I’m not pregnant or breastfeeding. If I’m not pregnant I’ll do calorie counting and portion control. If I AM pregnant I don’t follow the diet, but still try to eat healthily.
I’m a SAHM, and do the grocery shopping and cooking, so I’m most cases I’ll buy the healthy food and make healthy, portion controlled meals. Because I’m lazy and making 1 meal is faster than 2 separate ones.

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Do you have to support your spouse every time they go on a diet?

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