Vacationing with and without newborn

Hey guys. So I’ve been conflicted and could use some advice since I’ll be a FTM. Any mommas out there that have gone on vacations with and without their newborns?

Got a family wedding in June that baby is invited to and will be 4 weeks old. Already prepped myself mentally for that one and will buy ear protectors for the noise. Wedding is at a hotel so I can easily escape to our room to BF and what not. Any advice for this would be great too. It’s a 4 hr car ride so not too bad.

Then we got a 12 hr car ride during 4th of July week. Hubby said I could probably fly and meet him at our destination but flying with a newborn alone sounds more daunting to me than being in a car with hubby, bro in law, and our dog. Only reason we’re driving is bc we don’t like putting our dog in cargo. We already are used to taking breaks for our dog so taking breaks for baby is already accounted for. Again, any road trip advice with a newborn would be greatly appreciated.

And then comes the trip I’m conflicted about. Hubby and I usually do a beach vacation in December but skipped it this year since we went to Europe this fall. We’re not doing a babymoon either because my work hours will be crazy for the next few months until just before the baby is born. Hubby surprised me with a one week Mediterranean vacation for the first week of September. My parents already agreed to watch the baby and I hopefully can build a supply of milk then. But I’ve been reading online with other mommas judging others for leaving their newborns behind. Besides the judging, it’s a different country and baby won’t have the necessary 6 month vaccines yet. This trip would also be a great time to catch up on sleep and reconnect with hubby. We’re going to be first time parents so we really don’t know what to expect. I guess we could also bring the baby but I really don’t know how the baby can handle an overnight flight and being out on the beach. We’ve never been to that destination before and I honestly feel it would be better to just leave baby with my parents. I dunno really.

We’re also bringing baby to Cabo in Mexico the following month in November for a friend’s destination wedding... but baby will have vaccination shots by then and both sets of parents are also invited to the wedding and willing to help out too.

Sorry for the long post. Just conflicted and needed a place to write this all down. Would I be a bad mom for leaving baby behind, or would it be bad to even bring a baby to a foreign country that I’ve never been to before for a beach vacation?