First off, I’m SO glad I found this group! I guess I’ve been posting in the wrong places this whole time. This is what I need.

Anyway I am starting to feel myself distancing away from my boyfriend for many reasons. His temper, his reluctance to seek counseling or psychiatric help (he doesn’t believe it), his biased views, lack of respect for me or my body, his emotional immaturity, and as of late, his inability to make up his mind. We both are many states away from the state we grew up in. We planned to go home for the holidays to see family. He dislikes his family but my family is close and accepting of him. My family is really small and my mom died in December a couple years ago so it is important that I spend time with them. B4 she passed my bf asked for her blessing to marry me and she gave her blessing. He has gone back and forth with whether he is going to spend Christmas and New Years back home or not. He has changed his mind 9 times. NINE TIMES. I wish he i was exaggerating. Today he calls me 10 min b4 he heads into his seasonal job (he’s 26 and never worked more than 2 months at a time, that’s for another story) and tells me that he will be working in this state until the first week of January, when just yesterday he asked me to push my flight back from Dec 20 to the 22nd so I could fly with him 😡like the world revolves around him. So he says “I’m going to stay here and work until January unless, you want me to spend the holidays with you?” After I told him 8 times already I would really like to spend holidays with him. I was so distraught when he told me he wasn’t going to be with me this first time back In October. He knows that but has the nerve to ask again! And says “it’s up to you”. So I told him I’m tired of the back and forth and if he comes he comes, if not okay. We did have time to discuss because then he got off the phone to go to work. 10min convo.