I know I'm sliding down a very slippery slope here. Let me start by saying this I respect that there is a certain leeway or respect due to baby moms. At the end of the day I understand my step daughter has a mother and that I'm not it I also understand that my husband needs to have some type of Co parenting relationship with her. None of those things are what is bothering me. Here the deal. My husband has a crazy baby mom. I imagine evert wife says that , but I truly am not that wife. I have a daughter from a previous relationship so I understand one hundred percent what it feels like to be in that baby mom category ... where to start. ...my husband refuses to go to court to establish visitation with his ex, personally I found court extremely helpful bc it really guarantees that the child can't be used as leverage toward one parent or the other and it also allows fairness toward each parent. I have no idea why my husband won't go to court and when it's brought up my husband kind of brushes me off or gets angry. His daughters mother is the nightmare bm that every post and e card is written about, she hates me . Why..I have no idea. Her and I have zero relationship and the few times that I have spoken with her I have been respectful and polite. She continually takes her daughter away and doesn't allow us to see her bc she imagines me looking at her wrong or saying something wrong pretty much all the time.there is never anything valid about her accusations. They are ditch attempts at blaming me for not allowing my husband to see his dsughter. She has been doing this to my husband long before I came into the picture .. I'm the reason now, but there has been numerous other reasons . None of them ever real. Anyway the real reason behind this post is at this point I'm over it . I'm almost to the point where I am considering divorcing my husband bc dealing with this crazy person Is way more then I want to deal with. Yes I essentially signed up for it marrying my husband but he promised me he would file before we got married so I wouldn't have to deal with it, she sets ridiculous rules and controls my husband and my relationship with my husbsnd.. he has one day off a week and the entire year last year she allowed him to see his daughter but me and my kids weren't allowed near her so he picked her up for the day while me and our son and my daughter stayed home. Needless to say we got zero time with him. It caused alot of issues between us bc my kids got left out of any time with dad bc he essentially had to choose... now she decided the rest of us are allowed to see her daughter and we have to drive an hour send me and my half both ways to see her for a few hours, fine. I was like it's better then nothing , and kept my mouth shut, we bought a bigger more reliable vehicle this year as well for numerous reaeons. My husband cannot be insured on it. When he meets with his bm they meet in as parking lot near her house, bc of the distance and safety we take my van..when we meet her he gets out chats with her and walks his daughter to the car. I don't get out. I don't say anything.. so anyway she decided recently that it offends her that I go for pick up. She had told my husband that if me snd the kids are in the car he will lose the few hours of visitation he gets and that I have to stay at the house.. I was like wtf no way. Who is in my husband car in a parking lot is none of her buwiness, I'm his wife, not some bum. I am the mother to his daughters brother and sister . Not only do I feel like she has no say but for him to drive back here and get us to do our Saturday activity adds on another forty five mins to his hour and a half drive ... as long as I don't cause issues , I don't see why it's her decision. She told him he needs to meet her alone for drop off and pick up. It's tough as well bc if we are out its easier and gives us more time for him to not stop and home ...anyway he agreed with her and told me that me and the kids are no longer welcome on the drive and for me this is pretty much the final straw, am I wrong for being livid with him...??? She essentially has control in our marriage ..