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Is he masturbating at all? Sometimes when men lead a busy life they get tired and don't feel like having sex so they masturbate and don't want to have sex because they've already taken care of the need. Otherwise maybe his sex drive is low? Maybe start searching deeper into his life for more reasons. Stress can cause a low sex drive as well. If he has a problem maybe look into performing clitoral stimulation on yourself, it's a good release that might hold you over until he is ready for sex if he won't look into figuring out why he doesn't want to.
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I am 22 years old and am noticing a great disparity in sex drive between myself and my SO of 5 years (he is also 22).
I would happily have sex every night however he could go many days or weeks without it bothering him. Therefore I try to initiate most times, however I have become afraid of rejection (as it has happened before) and have lost a lot of confidence in trying to start sex with him has a result.
If I become unhappy that he is not responding to my advances he gets defensive and accuses me of only wanting sex, not intimacy.
I feel as though he doesn't understand how emotional sex is to me. We have discussed our different feelings about sex but I'm not sure it's getting through to him.
We are intimate emotionally and constantly express affection to each other in a variety of other ways. We have a stable, loving and beautiful relationship. He is attracted to me. He is not cheating. He works full time but has established a good routine. When we have sex it is great, no impotency problems or lack of orgasms.
Although I've tried to speak with him a few times about my concerns nothing has really changed. I'm either given sex just so I stop complaining or I'm told that I am worrying about nothing, overthinking etc. I'm quietly really struggling with the lack of sex I'm getting and no longer know how to broach this problem with him without hurting his feelings or causing more damage to our sex life.
Is anyone else experiencing this issue?
Is it alarming that, although I am in a long term relationship, it's happening at such a young age?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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My hubby has a lower sex drive (he's 26). I'd love sex every other day or so, where he's good once a week, if that.I know it can be frustrating, but I've learned how to deal with it.. Even though I do occasionally tell him he needs in initate sex -- but then I find I don't get turned on as much.
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That's the issue if I have to tell him straight out it becomes like pity sex and it's definitely not as passionate.. Gets awkward
Have you ever had a discussion with him about this, not just complaining about the lack of sex? Has it always Been this way or has it started recently? It could be stress related. I know my husband will sometimes go thru periods of decreased sex drive when he's stressed out because of work. I suggest sitting down with him and having a candid discussion about both of your feelings. Marriage and long term relationships are about compromise and making sure the both of you are satisfied in EVERY capacity. If he needs more intamicy versus intercourse and you're the opposite then maybe you can "meet in the middle"? Those are my thoughts. Hope you can work thru it!
El
Sexy lingerie while you're cleaning toilets on Sunday??😆
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I have tried to have level headed discussions although it does get hard when I'm so frustrated. I put it down to stress originally but on weekends when he has opportunities to fool around there are times when he still doesn't think to have sex. It has been more so the last couple of years
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