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I am 22 years old and am noticing a great disparity in sex drive between myself and my SO of 5 years (he is also 22).

I would happily have sex every night however he could go many days or weeks without it bothering him. Therefore I try to initiate most times, however I have become afraid of rejection (as it has happened before) and have lost a lot of confidence in trying to start sex with him has a result.

If I become unhappy that he is not responding to my advances he gets defensive and accuses me of only wanting sex, not intimacy.

I feel as though he doesn't understand how emotional sex is to me. We have discussed our different feelings about sex but I'm not sure it's getting through to him.

We are intimate emotionally and constantly express affection to each other in a variety of other ways. We have a stable, loving and beautiful relationship. He is attracted to me. He is not cheating. He works full time but has established a good routine. When we have sex it is great, no impotency problems or lack of orgasms.

Although I've tried to speak with him a few times about my concerns nothing has really changed. I'm either given sex just so I stop complaining or I'm told that I am worrying about nothing, overthinking etc. I'm quietly really struggling with the lack of sex I'm getting and no longer know how to broach this problem with him without hurting his feelings or causing more damage to our sex life.

Is anyone else experiencing this issue?

Is it alarming that, although I am in a long term relationship, it's happening at such a young age?

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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