Too soon?

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My boyfriend and I as of today have been dating two months. He is the first guy I’ve ever fallen in love with and he’s perfect for me. We’ve both already confessed our love and we usually spend the weekends together although lately we have been spending alittle more time together because we found that spending a week apart is really hard. He has had past relationships that have lasted years but he’s my first official boyfriend. Ever since we started dating he’s mentioned locking me down and how perfect I am and that I take care of him. We’ve already talked about moving in together, about having kids at some point and we talk about getting married alot. It makes me feel good because people tend to leave me in my life but when he talks like that I feel like he’s not actually going to leave me. I can tell he loves me he constantly complements me and holds me and when we are together all my issues and anxiety are just gone. When he has to go home my heart just drops I physically feel different when I’m not when him. He recently took me to his house and he let me know that I was the first girl he’s ever taken back to his house and into his room and even his ex wasn’t allowed in and the whole time he was so ecstatic because everyone finally had me in his room. I’m just mentioning that because I feel that he genuinely really loves me but is it too soon to talk about marriage and getting a home together and having kids and vacations because we talk about it occasionally and while I don’t mind I don’t know if other people talk about it that soon or not. Maybe that’s just where we are but I genuinely love him and want to do these things with him I was just curious

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Of course, it’s too soon. Your brains are flooded with dopamine. Everything is great and exciting. Your brains are acting just like they would if you were on drugs like cocaine. You have to give yourselves and your relationship time to settle down. Then with literally clearer brains, you can determine if this relationship can last, and you’ll get to know who you both really are within the context of this relationship.

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Yes it’s too soon to talk about marriage. Slow down. You don’t know him in a relationship yet, even if you were friends for years before hand being with someone romantically is completely different. Just enjoy getting to know each other and spending time with each other and talk about all that stuff when you’re actually certain this is going the right way.

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Its not too soon to talk, but its too soon to act on it.
And I highly reccommend living with someone before marriage.  You learn a lot about someone living with them 24/7 even if you had been together for months or years.

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To talk about it? No, its good to know you guys are looking for the same things in life.
To go for it? Absolutely too soon. Yes, there's women who got married after a month or whatever and are fine now but do you know how many other women did that and AREN'T  fine? The majority of them. If he loves you SO MUCH he can wait until youre in a more established relationship.

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I got married after knowing my husband for 3 months. 🤷🏻‍♀️ but I was in horrible relationships before and knew that he was a keeper

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Too soon as you guys are still so young. There is so much out there and so many things as a couple you haven’t experienced. I remember being 16 and in love; such a magical and wonderful time. However like most mine didn’t last even though I swore it would. I’m not saying yours won’t, I’m saying enjoy being young and in love. Marriage is a piece of paper, love is the commitment made before and after that paper is signed. Remember, people change and so does love. Right now you are in the honeymoon phase which is great, let that settle and really learn who he is and the partner he is going to be. If you guys are truly in love there is no rush and the bigger test will be committing without the need of a piece of paper saying you should.

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Kind of. I mean I’ve only been with my boyfriend for 2 months and we kinda talk about that stuff but not much

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You’ve been together for 2 months and spend the weekends together ... that’s like 16 days together, you barely know each other inside and out , definitely too soon in my opinion I would wait at least a year to even begin talking about moving in together

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To talk about it, a little bit too soon. My SO and I talked about it when we were dating for 8 months, we got engaged after a year and a month, but we didn’t get married until almost 4 years together. Also, we lived together for about 2 years before getting married  It’s true - you get to learn about them when you live with them to make sure you’re making the right decision. Now we are happily married in our own house and have been together for 5 years ❤️ I will admit that I’ve never felt so serious about anyone before him so I just knew it was going to be him. On our third date, I literally said to myself, “I’m going to marry this gem one day.” 😍

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I mean, my rational head is saying yes it’s too soon to be making those plans, however my husband and I spoke about marriage and kids when we’d known each other like 3 months... not making plans but saying we wanted those things and kinda hinting we wanted them with each other. He moved in after 4 months and proposed after 10 months so it worked for us but I guess every relationship is different

Too soon?

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