Am I the asshole?

Ok, please tell me honestly if you think I am the asshole in this situation.

I have a 2 and a half year daughter, my ex husband and I split up not long after she was born and since then he hasn’t seen much of her, his choice. Now it is over a year there has been no contact nor child maintenance paid.

That is the quick background. I met my current boyfriend in July this year.

My daughter was away with the grandparents so I spent 2 weeks with him without her and the relationship got very intense.

I then left to get her, in the meantime I sold my house (which was the one I lived in with my ex husband) and bought a new one but the process got complicated on the way, my purchaser’s fault, and delayed the whole thing. So to cut long story short when I came back with my daughter he offered to stay with him until my house was finally ready for us to move in. As the house I sold was full of boxes and we couldn’t stay there. The few friends who I could have stayed with were all away when I came back and it seemed ok to be with him. I loved and love him and yes it was quick but he seemed genuine in his wanting to help.

We stayed with him nearly 3 weeks.

That was August/beginning of September.

In that period it happened that my period was late and I am on birth control so it was weird.

I had 3 pregnancies: the first one a miscarriage, the second one my daughter and the third one I had to end. I always knew I was pregnant before the test in all three. This time I did not have any symptoms, at all. Just I was late. Talking with my girlfriends, they all say take a test and then you don’t think about it. So I did, negative.

I don’t even think of mentioning the whole thing to my boyfriend: first I just met him a month and something before that and second he was and still is not in a good place, quite depressed and stressed, financial problems and no support from his family. So not the best of the time to say hey I am 99% sure I am not pregnant but I am going to test anyway. I just thought that I would tell him in a positive outcome but otherwise no need to stress.

I put the test in the bin bag I keep in my car so for him not to even find it.

Months go by, I even empty that but apparently not entirely.

This very morning he empties the bin for me and finds the test.

Freaks out.

I explain the whole thing like I just did to you.

He reacts very badly. He said that I betrayed him, he can’t trust me anymore and that he is not sure what to think of me anymore.

Am I crazy or that reaction is totally out of proportion? It is now December, so many things happened in between but I am always on his side, even when things go wrong especially cause of his bad period. And then this happens right on Christmas eve! Am I the asshole who can’t see?!

I don’t think I have done anything wrong in not telling him I took a pregnancy test, it was negative as I knew it would, I was just being paranoid and I was stressed for the whole house move and I think that’s the reason my period wasn’t bang on time.

I would have talked to him if it would have been positive, of course, but as I said I know my body. There was no way. Plus after just over a month I knew him, and him being in that delicate moment of his life, did not want to create more stress nor thought I had to share that.

I tried to talk to him again now but he is not changing his opinion.

Thoughts?

Thank you for reading and helping!