FOMO?

Question

So this is my first pregnancy, I’m 5w 2d & i’m having a serious case of FOMO. (Fear of missing out) on outings and social events that i know are to come... my husband travels for work a lottttt and i rely on my friends a lot to not feel lonely. We’re a very social group and usually like to drink and hang out with our group at least every other weekend. Upon announcing my pregnancy to my best friend, I get this “If you’re up to it we’re going dancing tomorrow”. Where they’re going is a bar that you can smoke inside of and i won’t go in there. So i’m just like almost mourning the things i know i’m about to miss out on. It already makes me feel lonely. Am i being crazy? And am I selfish for thinking this? I’ve been dying for a baby so its not like i’m second guessing that AT ALL. just to clarify.

Answer

I actually don’t think it’s selfish. Becoming a parent is an adjustment, and especially for ladies, it’s a bigger commitment because you have so many more restrictions before baby even arrives. I would kindly ask your friend group if you can make fun plans at other places at least some of the time. Dancing doesn’t have to happen at a bar where people can smoke inside, even if they are serving alcohol. I live in a small town, so I know there aren’t always a bunch of options. My doctor told me once that it sometimes feels illegal to be alive when you’re pregnant. Don’t be afraid to go out and do things, just use common sense. I always offered to be the DD, and let me tell you, sometimes it’s fun to watch other people be idiots and to NOT wake up with a hangover the next morning. My only small piece of actual advice is this: Let your group show their true colors as individuals. People who value you and your coming family will be there, and be willing to make adjustments, especially if you’re being reasonable about it, too. They will also do their best to ensure that you don’t feel like a burden, because you’re not. Good luck, momma. I promise it’s worth it, even on the hardest days 💜

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I begged my husband to hook me up with other navy wives for a long time, and he didn’t until the baby came out. But I worked and worked out and tried to clean and create new hobbies. I did some yoga, and obsessively read into pregnancy.

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I moved across the country and have no one but my SO out here so I’m desperate just to have the baby already so we can be a family I’m like so lonely I want a dog or something 😩

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I can relate. I don’t do the party scene much anyway but my close friends are either never planning to have kids or aren’t planning to for several years, and I’ve already had vibes from them that they’re not sure what to do with me once things progress. I mean they’re happy for me and I know they’ll like being “aunties” but everything will be way different and that feels a little isolating and lonely.

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