I might be arrested for homicide very soon...

So my man hits me up randomly earlier today. He said he wanted to spend a little time with me before he went to this supposed dinner for a friend of his. He then mentions that he's taking his friend (who is a girl) with him because his other friend, who was also going, mixed up her name with mine when making the reservations for the dinner and ,according to him, the names matter in the reservation. (Note: this sounded like bs from the jump but I just woke up from a long nap when he called so I was too discombobulated to say anything.) So jump to a little later we're hanging around things are fine (I'm still hella salty) and he drops me home after about an hour. We text a bit here there and I finally ended up saying goodnight because I "had nothing to do" (my attempt at making him feel a little bit guilty) and I ended things with that. As the night goes on I can'y help to think how much his story doesn't make sense. No restaurant .at leat of what I heard of, takes names of the guest of a reservation let alone are strict to letting only those guests attend the dinner. So I let a little crazy out and ended up calling the restaurant. I asked the receptionist how the processes of reserving a table goes and if the guest names are necessary in making a reservation to which she said NO. So now I'm heated because he it seems like he had lied. Now to tell you guys a bit of background story: I've been very weary of my man and this girl who he claims is his best friend. I have nothing to prove as to why but it's because I choose not to look into it. We're all friends so I would trust that she'd have enough respect towards me and him to not mess with our relationship and he'd have enough respect towards me to stoop that low, but people are unpredictable so you can't always trust. It's just been a gut feeling and I have had that gut feeling very often lately. I'm currently fuming and I need answers as to if he lied to me (which I believe he did) and why would he lie to take his friend to this dinner. I'm even doubting there was a birthday dinner in the first place. I've called and texted (to which he's read) and nothing from his end. This was just a rant but feel free to post any opinions

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So we talked like we normally do sorted out our issues agreed on what we need to work on and moved on. But, curiosity got the best of me and I just had to have one more question to ask so I could fully have closure and move on. Just a quick side note: I were to generally discribe our relationship some would call exclusively dating but with no lables. We go on family trips and events tg and we've discussed moving in tg, kids, even marriage so the lack of labels doesn't mean we're not serious and its just that we have a different more perception of what an official relationship is and we are still working to go through our own personal hardships first so we won't enter a relationship with so much baggage or we'll at least know how to handle them by then. We're just together labels are really a priority we're good where we are. That being said, though it's frowned upon because we are exclusively dating eachother, it's also not taboo that we can talk to other people because we not 100% committed (hope that makes sense). So my question to him was if him and his friend have something going on or has had something going on to which he said no. We were on then on the phone and her proceeded to further explain to me that he will never see her in that light nor her she woth him because they have too much respect for their friendship. My suspicions grew with them because they would hang out so much but he said it's because they just match eachother's way of things and that is no planning just getting up and doing. I cannot do this with him because my parents are military strict and won't let me leave the house later than 8PM. The option of sneaking out was brought up but he asked that I rather not because if i get caught I might not be able to see him at all. Like I said before we aren't fully committed so there would be no reasons for him to lie to me if something were to be going on so I thought the same way about this whole dinner situation. Things are good now especially since we really got into what we need to do and work on to move forward into being in an actual committed relationship. But I hear all of you in the comments and am taking all you say into consideration I'm giving him a chance to better himself now that he knows what he's doing wrong. Im giving him 2 months. If I see no progress by then I'm done. 9 months is enough time to know a person well enough to love them the right if he can't figure it out by then then maybe things aren't meant to be. Thank you guys again so much for your kind words (towards me lol) and your advice❤️

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I said I had a gut feeling about this best friend situation and a ot of you are trying me trust my gut in this situation and I totally get why it's just common in a relationship to do so bc it usually is right but my case is a little different. I suffer severely from anxiety and depression but mostly anxiety. My anxiety manifests over my constant fear of the unknown. Im one to like to have control of a situation (as we all do) and when i don't I freak out very bad. So when say I'm not at a certain place but my man is my FOMO turns into anxiety because I don't know exactly what's going on not because I don't trust him I just don't trust literally anything or anyone humans are unpredictable and so is the earth we live on so literally anything is possible and it freaks me tf out! So i often psych myself out in these situations because my mind is trying to fill the holes of what may have happened or what could be happening and it take these made up scenarios to such extreme lengths that I become verrrry upset and most times they're not even true! My gut feeling about them started manifesting because they were hanging out so much but if he was trying to hide an alleged affair I don't think he'd be as open as to tell me every time they're together or when they're going to hang out which he does it's just that I don't necessarily know what they're doing so that's where my mind tends to go places. So my gut isn't very trustworthy in the sense that my mind likes to sabotage these kind of situations by making up these scenarios that will make me upset and eventually isolate me. It's kinda a messed up way of protecting myself and im working on improving it but currently in my situation now where my parents are constantly on my ass with everything and are so stict Im just not able to go or do everything thing i want to go to or do just yet so my fomo and anxiety are going anywhere just yet. I am hoping to move out this summer so hopefully things look up.

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Y'all so things started to clear up. I found out that I called the wrong restaurant. There are different types of this restaurant scattered around the tri state and they both offer different things for example one offers live music and a vip section while others don't. I called one of them that didn't. His friend determined last minute that they were going to this party but missed the original rsvp for the party so had to make their own which did require their names to be listed. As for the missed phone calls it's nothing new honestly he's a deep sleeper and always has his phone on do not disturb when he's asleep. There was one time I slept over and had to leave while he was sleeping to go to work and I had forgotten my keys in his car so I called him about 3 times with no answer even though I was just with him and his phone was laying right next to him. My texts messages and one voice phone call (not facetime) went through to him because he has on his dnd settings to only let calls from his favorited contacts go through and on top of that you just don't favorite a contact you favorite what you want to go through from that contact like ft calls, regular voice calls and/or messages like so:

He just has my text and voice calls favorited he didn't know that facetime required its own favorite too and I was mainly calling him through facetime lol. I already explained the whole deal with his friend and like I said he has no reason to lie to me and he holds grudges on his exes still because they cheated on him so I'm sure he isn't the cheating type either so I put my trust in him on that. We actually saw eachother earlier today and things were way better than they were before which I hope means he's being a man of his word when he said he was going to do better and fix what needs to be fixed. Who would've thought this horror story would have a happy ending lol

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to make a long story short he aint my man anymore. we're still talking and we're still going to hang out but yeah im just not looking at things as serious anymore 🤷🏽‍♀️

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For those looking for an update read my most recent post