Not complaining

My husband and I have been together for 11 years. When we first got together we had passionate sex but I never had gotten off/had an orgasm. After I had my daughter I finally reached my first o. After my second child and again with my third child I had tore my clit and had 9 stitches TMI and nothing has been the same. I have to have a vibrator to get off or really long g spot stimulation to reach the o. Is there any other woman that have torn there and have any tips on how to reach the o and get off easier.?????