Boyfriends baby momma drama 🤦🏽‍♀️**update**

So my boyfriend has a child from a previous relationship. It’s a bit of a long story, but there’s doubt about the legitimacy of his child. She left right after the child support case went through and he had never gotten any court papers about it. (Our only guess is that since she was living with him she kept telling delivery that he wasn’t home until they published it in the newspaper and she got that and threw it out.) He found out he’s paying child support because all of his paychecks were/are short by a few hundred. After she left him he only got to see his child when his ex needed a baby sitter (child was sick so couldn’t go to daycare etc.). He hasn’t seen his child in over a year and a half.

Anyways, she just found out I’m pregnant. She hasn’t said anything to either of us in the well over a year that we’ve been together, but now she made a comment about how he doesn’t acknowledge the family he already has (meaning his child.) I blocked her, and then her sister messaged me claiming that my boyfriend has only paid child support 5 months out of 3 years, which is laughable since the entire time I’ve been with him hundreds are automatically garnished from each paycheck.

Honestly, we didn’t think she was this bitter, but now her and her family are trash talking him to everybody saying he’s going to “be a shit dad to my kid too.”

Why do people try to make drama for their ex and their ex’s new partner???

**update** my boyfriend HAS made an effort to see his child, but has no legal rights since he didn’t show up to the original court dates (since he didn’t know about them.) He is NOT a deadbeat dad, sadly we just live in a state that always favors the mom. Since they weren’t married, all rights automatically go to the mom, and there’s literally nothing he can do about it, he’s tried talking to lawyers. As for a DNA test the lawyer we talked to about that said there is no point unless he wants to know for personal reasons. In our state he would have had 6 months after the birth to question the child’s legitimacy legally. So even if he finds out for sure, he will be paying child support and have even less of a chance of gaining any rights to his child.